Friday, September 26, 2008

Fumbling Friday and Family

No picture of me today! I haven't been posing so much, and Mom's been, well, Mom hasn't been herself lately.

I am sure you have all noticed that I haven't been visiting as many blogs as I used to, and that Mom and I haven't been commenting much. We try to visit all our wonderful friends' blogs, but Mom just... well, I dunno. She isn't exactly blue, or grey. She isn't really sad... (except when she hears that Mombean is having a hard day). She just doesn't seem to have the extra energy she had before.

Of course -everybody- is worried about how hard it is going to be to feed the heating monsters this winter, and the e-conomy, the price of gas, global warming, the general state of the world, and the upcoming election (we won't tire you with political tirades, but please VOTE), and you know, all that big stuff.

Mom has had a hard time keeping up with the housework, and she tries to keep busy in the sewing room, and she works hard day hunting, keeping the bits and bytes flying around the net at her day hunting gig (don't ask, I don't get it either). She runs around as usual, doing the same stuff she did before, but it's not quite the same.

I think I know what it is. I think Mom has a tiny Sprout-shaped hole in her heart too. I know there isn't a day that goes by that she doesn't think of Sprout and her family. Our family. Sprout's family is my family.

So please forgive us for not visiting all of you and leaving witty funny comments. Please excuse my boring blog posts, or Mom's lame excuses for not posting an interesting Thursday Thirteen, or for posting a dull one. Mom's just not back to "normal" yet. Frankly, that old normal isn't going to come back. Mom needs to build a new "normal" and it's gonna take some time.

So if you'll excuse me, I have to go over and get her to give me some attention. I think she needs some purrs.


Chesney Cats said...

That's OK Millie. I think everyone understands. We're purring for your Mom & Mombean.

Hugs & Purrs,
Sammy, Festus & Emma

Anonymous said...

One day you just realize that you aren't making a frown and your forehead relaxes. I am sorry.

Poppy Q said...

You girls just take it easy. Grief is a hard thing, and it takes a long long time to get back to a new kind of normal.

We are glad that you can still pop in and visit, and we enjoy your posts.

Wrapping our arms and paws around the world to send you a big hug.

Poppy and Julie Q

Anonymous said...

I has not known you for a long long time Miss Millie, but I have to says that I would never ever class anything you has done as boring etc!
Your Momma sounds like she is questioning everything and you knowz what, it is good to ask those questions.

I very much wish I could say something to make your families feel better, but I just don't know what.
You know you make sure your Momma looks after her first:))

Kind loving puurrss

Frostin said...


Anonymous said...

We're purring and purring for you. You do not have to find a new normal, one day it will just be there. Mom says it is good to have a routine, especially when you feel like you just don't know what to do.

Parker said...

Millie, you have a very important job to do, but I think you know that.
Please go and give your Mom some lovin' from me and tell her that it's OK. Those holes that are in our hearts are very hard to heal.

Us4 Cats said...

Millie you are a very intuitive kitty.
Grief is hard and runs deep. Just love extra on mom and fill up on purrs.
Sometimes we get stuck when we arent ready to move and sometimes we move before we are ready. Remind maw to take all the time she needs.
I have found that kitties make everying much better. My kitties are my therapy when I feel low. Curl up next to her and she will love on you and it will help you both.

Puffie said...

Purrfectly normal to feel kinda "uhg". One day, as mentioned above, it will seem as tho the veil has lifted and that dark cloud will be brighter. It will get brighter day by day. Sprout will not be forgotten, but it will get easier and easier to move on. We're all thinking and purring for you.

The Meezers or Billy said...

oh MilliesMom, we didn't 'spekt that you would just be able to pick up your normal life without feeling sad or anything. we totally unnerstand. Sprout is your fambly and when you lose fambly it's very very hard and it takes a long time to get over it.
{{{{HUGS}}}} and purrrsssss to you MilliesMom, and Millie.

Leslie said...

We really understand, we really do. Our mom had a sister with "a very serious illness" this year and now our gran is in a very. very bad way with the not healing broken shoulder from 7 weeks ago.

Our mom has been all numb and foggy for several months now.

Hang in there and purr a lot - that is what we do. :)
We are thinking of you - and your mom. :)

Mickey's Musings said...

Millie,sometimes you just have to step back and recharge your batteries.
When a really sad event happens it takes a LONG time to feel good.It is your Mom's brain trying to decide what really is important and what really matters. It takes time to sort it all out,but when she does she will smile more :)
Staying by her and giving purrs is a great way to help her.
Purrs Mickey

LZ said...

Oh Millie your mom is such a special human and that's part of why it hurts so much. We know there is no way to fill that hole and we certainly understand all you're saying. But please do know we think about you every day too and purr that you are doing well.


Anonymous said...

Millie, your blog is great just the way it is...whether you and your Mom are happy, sad, busy, lazy...whatever! Ask for lots of attention so that she has to stop and give you pets and scritches. We don't want your Mom running herself down and this way you can help keep your Mom healthy. And get pets and scritches and love at the same time. Win-win!

Lone Star Purrs said...

We agree wif efurryone else. It just takes time. And sometimes beans feel "grey" wifowt any reason at all. It just takes time and LOTS of kitty love!!!
::hug & purrs::
~Meeko & Kiara

pee ess- Momma sez fnaks fur yur help wif tha qwilt qwestions!

Kaz's Cats said...

Millie, we understand that it's been a very tough time for your Mom - you just stay near her and let her give you some scritches, and snuggle with her - no one else can do that like you.

Kitty hugs and purrs,

Gypsy & Tasha

Monty Q. Kat said...

Damn, Pet Articles apparently didn't even read the post...o_0

Look, I'm coming over to make you feel better, my sweet tuxie girl. I'll even sit on your Mom's head if she'd like. I'll throw in one of my super-deluxe deep-rib purrs too.

As soon as I can figure out how to teleport a bean I'll bring MomBean too. I've got a feelin' those two together would make 'em both better.


Shaggy and Scout said...

It's been a busy summer. Happy busy & sad busy. And now there's the after summer slump starting. Our mom loves fall weather but behind that is the knowledge that cold winter is on the way.
See a doctor Millie's mom if you need to.
Millie: keep up the purrs and cuddles. That is very important.

Tybalt said...

It is okay, Millie. We all understand. Just keep purring for your Mom, and she will start healing much faster, and that new "normal" won't take so long to get.

Zippy, Sadie, Speedy and M'Gee said...

We unnerstand...and dem holes in da heart really suck da enerjee and sometimes joy out of beans.

Niko and Cloud said...

We know about dat. Our beans have a Texas-sized hole in their heart, and sometimes we have to purr at them, and a Sprout-sized hole is even bigger than a Texas-sized hole!

Jans Funny Farm said...

We think that's quite understandable, Millie. It takes humans a long time to work through a traumatic event in life. And losing Sprout was definitely traumatic. So we're sure every reader understands.

Astrid (…and the kitties too) said...

Awwwww Millie and Lynne that's ok. You all need time to heal and it will take a lot of time! Don't expect too much of yourslef it is ok that you are sad and somedays it is harder than others.
Now we feel sad that we probably added to your sadness with our email telling you the quilt arrived and the pics of Darian...
we are sending lots of healing purrrs and hugs to you all!

Kashim & Othello and Salome
and Momma Astrid

Memories of Eric and Flynn said...

We understand Millie's mum. There is a lot of sadness in your heart and it will take a long time to heal. Some days it will come out and overwhelm you.Millie, your job is to help heal the sadness. We know you can do it with lots of snuggling and purring.

Robyn and The (Mostly) Badass Cat said...

*hugs* Lynne. I know.
Do what you need to to take care of you and the rest will wait.
*hugs* from me and tons of purrrrrrs from the kitties.

Camp Stanhope Happenings said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
Camp Stanhope Happenings said...

We feel the same way. We'll send purrs to you and the rest of Sprout's family, too. Thanks for caring.

Max said...

Eh, we'd be meanieheads if we didn't understand. This time of year sucks for a lot of people, and then there's there whole hole in the heart thing. We get it. Your Mom should take the time she needs. We'll all still be here later.

Just Ducky said...

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} to both Millie and mum. Amazing how such a little person can leave such a big hole! In time things get better, everyone on their own timetable.

Toffee K. Ripple Fuzzypants & Feline American Angels said...

Millie ... I hope that your momma is gonna be alright. She sounds sad and needs to give herself some time to grieve for Sprout. Time is furry, furry important. Please tell her to be gentle with herself.

Anonymous said...

Dear Millie,

Please don't wory about not visitng us all, it's understandable. Mom and I so hope your Mom feels better soon. It's so hard to be happy when your heart is aching - and Sprout was as beautiful a baby as she is now an Angel. We all miss her and pray for her and the fambly.
Hugs to you all from Milo and Mom. xxxx

Mark's Mews (Marley, Lori, Loki, and Binq) said...

Holes-in-hearts take time ta heal... Just keep close ta Mom and try to comfort her. That will help lots.

Lux said...

Hugs and purrs to your mom,
Lux & family

Chrissie said...

Miss Millie, you and your mom have such big hearts. I'm glad to know people who's hearts are big enough to have Sprout-shaped holes in them. My mom and I send you two many hugs and purrs and purrs and purrs. We'll be here. No matter what.

Mr. Chen and Ollie said...

Oh Millie, everyone is sending you and your mom and Monty and his mom all our love... ((((((((((hugs))))))))))
Mr. Chen & Ollie